Hello, nice of you to drop by....
You won't really get to know me by reading this profile or relying on this awful picture. Realistically, how can that be possible? Chemistry doesn't happen across the internet. I've decided today that this won't be a 'static' profile. I will put little bits and pieces on here from time to time, will they be interesing? Who knows? It will give you a little insight into me. I think I am like a bottle of red wine, balanced, some complexity, as Robert Parker said 'intellectually satisfying', character, no headaches, and mature - so just let me out of this bottle, lol.
I believe that the sum total of one + the 'right' one is greater than the sum of two; that is the type of relationship I would love.
The Dalia Lama when asked 'what is the meaning of life' replied 'the purpose of life is to be happy'. I am beginning to understand 'the more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life.' So, for a while, this is where I will start to add to my happiness until I find the one who'll let me whisper in their ear, let's get the hell out of here, or until I bang my head against the wall in frustration.
Well I'm still doing a bit of head banging today.... this way of meeting people seems totally unnatural to me. Who actually looks like their photo? How can I hear your voice when you text. I can't see how tall you are. Do you have a parrot on your shoulder? (oops one photo on here did...) Some of you seem to want to text until your fingers drop off. It's OK, most of us are very nervous about this, get out and meet people, that's the answer.
I fill my days with things I love to do which is sometimes just taking a quiet moment. I'm not unhappy with my lot, I would prefer some company on this journey, some fun, adventure, laughs, some quiet times with someone honest, caring, intelligent, willing to have a go and fun to be with. Someone who makes me laugh. Maybe not a 24/7 together proposition, but when we are apart, we are both looking forward to when we meet again.
Next my values: honest, trustworthy, blah, blah, blah, you've read the list on here a thousand times. Who is going to say that they are dishonest? The only way to know is for you to make your own judgement, and that will require a conversation; not texting ad nauseum. I need to hear your voice and see your eyes (they don't lie). BTW, I am honest, trustworthy and loyal, a bit like a labrador dog really (I don't chase sticks though have been know to chase a small white ball twice a week).
What if it's not right' you say? Well giving it a chance by meeting is better than a life with a computer. Have you every tried to hug a computer? Very uncomfortable I would think, all those sharp edges (I don't have sharp edges). And if it's not right for either just says so, and yes, it is that easy. This is a starting point; not the happy ever after bit yet, It will take some time to build that story, which, with the right person, is a natural progression of being friends.
I don't want to get to the end of my journey thinking 'oh I wish....'or 'if only'. I'm looking for some balance and it's the someone; the who and not the what; that is important to me. Getting out of here doing the things I love and maybe sharing some of the things you love.
I just finished walking the Milford Track in NZ, I am lost for words.... incredible - but would like someone to share the next walk even if it's just with the dogs. Come and walk with me for a while and see what you think, you never know, we could have an enjoyable time, maybe not the ever after thing, but a happy space in the interim.
Thanks for reading today's ramblings.... now don't just sit there, take a small chance... ;-) completed a 5.5 hour sailing race we came 3rd (bit of trouble with the spinnaker).... Next week is Summer Solstice.... surfing, yoga, chanting, food.... that will be a great day.... Next year.... tango lessons all arranged....Floating last week.... finished a 2.5hr yoga workshop, twisted myself into a pretzel (well almost) but I did do a hand stand and a shoulder stand....Whoaaaa!
a) I'm easy to get along with, and I don't bite.
b) Why are you all wearing sunglasses?
c) I appreciate honesty. This is difficult for all of us; respect for each other is the key, even if it's a thanks but this isn't for me.
d) I'm gradually learning about this online dating stuff so please be patient, I feel a bit like the rabbit in the headlights.
e) Hint for some why have such a narrow search field? You may be missing out on a really good person. If they lived within 5kms, you would probably already know them
Life is too short to spend it alone. I would like find someone for companionship